Last updated: November 27th, 2019
These are the 5 most common reasons why people with ADHD fail…
ADHD fail #1. Lack of self-belief
If two hospital patients are told they’re about to undergo the same exact surgery, but only one patient actually receives the surgery, both patients are still likely to experience the same exact benefits.
Sounds pretty crazy right?
How could this possibly happen?
That’s the power of the human mind in action.
More specifically, that’s the power of belief.
Whether a person succeeds or fails comes down almost entirely to belief.
Yes of course you will need skills.
Yes of course you will need knowledge and real-world implementation.
But as long as you have genuine belief that you will succeed at a particular task, you’re 90% of the way there.
Experiencing a severe lack of self-belief is the most common reason why people with ADHD fail.
There are so many different reasons why people with ADHD lack self-belief.
This is usually a result of:
- Childhood traumas
- Bad memories
- Bad experiences with teachers in the public school system
But there comes a time when you have to take back control of your self-belief, and start using self-belief to your advantage again.
ADHD fail #2. You don’t know how the ADHD brain functions (i.e. dopamine)
Just to be clear, the human brain is incredibly complex and ADHD still isn’t totally understood.
But ADHD researchers know enough about ADHD to help you drastically improve your quality of life.
For example, when you have ADHD, knowing how dopamine production affects your everyday life is crucial.
Dopamine rules the ADHD brain and controls virtually all aspects of your everyday life.
Of course, other neurochemicals play a major role in influencing your everyday life too (your entire system works synergistically).
But dopamine is the most relevant neurochemical for people with ADHD to understand.
This is because your ADHD brain releases dopamine whenever it perceives that a reward is on the horizon.
This is why booking a vacation feels so good in the moment.
As soon as you book a vacation, you’ll subconsciously know that a reward is on the way 3 months from now. Which feels really, really good.
This is like giving yourself a constant dopamine drip every time you book a vacation well in advance.
Best of all, understanding how your brain releases dopamine enables you to pursue the rewards that are most stimulating to you in life.
For some people, this might mean that your vision is to live a simple life in a country home, and this is what drives you every day.
Some people might feel most motivated by the idea of living in a condominium in a bustling city center, traveling the world or retiring by a sunny beach.
The trick is to learn about dopamine production and how it affects your ADHD brain today.
Understanding dopamine allows you to pursue what’s most exciting to you in life and be rewarded for your efforts.
ADHD fail #3. You don’t have a clear vision for your life
- Do you know which direction your life is headed towards?
- Where are you going in life?
- As of today, what’s your future going to look like?
If you don’t know the answers to these simple questions off the top of your head…you’re in big trouble (like most people).
That’s the bad news.
The good news is that it’s 100% possible for you to create a clear vision for your life and achieve your life’s vision.
Whenever you leave your house and hop in the car, you know where you’re going most of the time right? This is just common sense.
But for some reason, no one really teaches us how to create a clear singular vision for our greater existence on this planet.
“Find a great career that you’re passionate about” is the classic advice that gets dished out in public schools.
Unfortunately, this advice doesn’t even work.
No one is actually passionate about a career.
People are passionate about living the unfiltered, beautiful existence they envision.
You need a clear vision for your life because you need a “target” to aim for.
Once you create a clear vision for your life, you’ll know exactly where you’re going, and I bet you’ll find a way to get there.
ADHD fail #4. Multi-tasking
I’ve officially declared war against multi-tasking on behalf of everyone with ADHD.
Multi-tasking is the enemy of ADHD.
As a general rule, the more you multi-task, the less you actually accomplish.
I have no idea why most job requirements still list “multi-tasking” as a valuable skill.
Multi-tasking doesn’t actually help anyone.
In fact, singular focus (also known as hyperfocus) is the most productive “mind muscle” a person with ADHD can exercise.
While multi-tasking almost always leads to failure in people with ADHD, hyperfocus offers the exact opposite: massive success.
ADHD fail #5. You refuse to acknowledge and change your everyday behaviors
Once you understand this particular ADHD failure, it’s going to absolutely infuriate you.
This concept is so simple, yet most people refuse to acknowledge it.
If your life isn’t going the way you want it to, you have to change your everyday behaviors in accordance with the future life that you desire.
For example, someone who aspires to play professional tennis has to practice for multiple hours, multiple times per week. There literally isn’t a single exception to this rule.
Similarly, if you want to get really fit and healthy, you would exercise multiple times per week and eat superfoods rather than play video games.
I know changing your behaviors is much easier said than done.
In fact, changing your behaviors can be extremely hard.
But if you don’t change your behaviors today how can you expect to experience the future life that you envision for yourself?
One final note on ADHD failure
I would like to emphasize that failure is not a bad thing.
In fact, even the most successful champions on Earth still fail a lot.
There’s no need to feel bad about failure.
But at the same time, the goal is to to maximize your odds of long-term success in life…which means that you have to win a lot, too.
There’s nothing wrong with failing a lot as long as you’re winning a lot too.