Last updated: April 2nd, 2020
Welcome to the ADHD bucket list.
This article covers the 11 things that every person with ADHD must do.
The following bucket list items are designed to help you:
- Reduce your stress, pain, and suffering
- Live a more fun, fulfilling, and purposeful life
- Make the most of the limited time that you have on Earth
I can assure you that I personally use these 11 bucket list items in my day-to-day life.
And, I know that these bucket list items work, because they’re the exact strategies that have allowed me to grow ADHD Boss into a website that helps thousands of people with ADHD every single day.
If I didn’t follow these 11 guidelines, then I probably wouldn’t have anything worth having.
I really hope you embrace this bucket list, and use it to your advantage.
Enjoy…
Contents
1. Create your “commonplace”
The #1 most important change that I made this year was creating a commonplace. Having a commonplace is that important. It will change your life.
What’s a commonplace, you might be wondering?
A commonplace is a single digital location where you keep ALL of your most important information. Your commonplace might include things like:
- Your daily to-do list
- Ideas that you come up with
- Your daily progress (what you accomplish)
- People who you want to reach out to
- A list of cities that you want to travel to
- Account usernames and passwords (you can password protect this type of sensitive information)
Any information that you need to reference regularly should go into your commonplace.
The main benefit of having a commonplace is that rather than having 100 different folders full of various information on your laptop, and sticky notes all over your room, you just have one centralized system where you store all of your most important information.
Like I said, creating a commonplace was the easiest and most impactful change that I made this year.
You will feel mentally “at ease” once you create your commonplace. You’ll no longer have to scour your computer for missing documents. Everything will be in one convenient location, so that you’ll always know where to find exactly what you’re looking for.
To create your commonplace, you can use:
- Microsoft OneNote (free for Microsoft users)
- Evernote (free and premium versions are available)
I use OneNote, and it’s surprising how much of a life-changing tool it can be for people with ADHD.
Just set aside 2 or 3 hours to transfer over all of your information into OneNote or Evernote, and you will fall in love with your commonplace. I promise you.
Both OneNote and Evernote come with awesome tutorials that make it really easy for you to get started.
Note: If you’re a little bit old school, then you definitely can use a physical commonplace like the one pictured above, if you really want to. But, I can assure you that using OneNote or Evernote will make your life so much easier.
2. Figure out what you’re good at, and do it often
Did you know that people with ADHD are capable of accomplishing just about anything in life?
It’s true.
Some of the world’s most competitive, highest-performing people have ADHD. Like Richard Branson, Simone Biles, Ingvar Kamprad, Seth Godin, etc.
But, here’s the rub:
You have to figure out what you’re good at, and do it often.
People with ADHD often get bogged down with comparing themselves to other (normal) people. That’s a problem, because you have ADHD, and you aren’t normal.
It’s time for you to embrace being different.
In reality, you’re the only person who truly knows what you’re good at. Every person with ADHD has some unique skill or special talent that they can leverage.
If you don’t know what you’re good at just yet, that’s OK. But, you need to start thinking about what you’re good at, and start figuring out how you can do that thing often.
Here’s how to figure out what you’re good at:
- Write down your favorite activities that you do on a regular basis
- Write down your favorite websites that you browse most often
- Write down any traits or skills that you receive compliments on
Once you narrow down one or two things that you’re good at – that’s going to be your ticket to a successful life with ADHD.
> For Richard Branson, his thing was starting businesses
> For Simone Biles, her thing was competitive sports
> For Ingvar Kamprad, his thing was creating an incredible furniture store (IKEA)
> For Seth Godin, his thing was marketing
> For you, your thing is…
It’s time for you to figure out your talents, and give your gift to the world.
3. Create genuine connections with people who have your best interests in mind
The people who you surround yourself with on a daily basis will make or break you.
If you have people in your life who aim to lift you up, then you’re incredibly blessed.
If you have people in your life who repeatedly knock you down, then you might want to think about separating yourself from these types of people as much as possible.
Having ADHD already creates a little bit of havoc in your life. You don’t need more unnecessary drama or wasted mental energy.
You need people who care about you. So, when you connect with someone who genuinely has your best interests in mind, make sure to keep that person in your life forever.
Also: Having ADHD makes it really easy to impulsively cut people out of your life. So, make sure to keep high-quality people in your inner circle, and very carefully cut out the bad ones.
4. Learn about how your ADHD brain actually works (educate yourself)
Once you develop a good understanding of how your ADHD brain actually works, your entire life will start to make sense.
This is a crazy feeling that I hope you get to experience very soon (if you haven’t already experienced this “ADHD epiphany” that I’m talking about).
For example, understanding the ins and outs of ADHD will help you realize:
> Why people with ADHD always seem to take risks and chase highs
> Why having ADHD makes you more likely to seek conflict, break the rules, and be rebellious
> Why most people with ADHD don’t seem motivated in life
As you can probably imagine, ADHD seems like a really problematic condition at first glance.
But, I can assure you that understanding ADHD will help you totally turn your life around.
ADHD essentially comes down to having a lack of self-control, and a weak dopamine function.
It’s a “disorder” of control.
But, what happens when you start to take control of your ADHD?
People who decide to take control of their ADHD are capable of doing so much cool stuff in life.
For instance, you can…
- Enjoy fulfilling relationships with awesome people
- Find a job that you love
- Start your own business
- Get in amazing shape and feel really good every day
It’s truly unbelievable how much you can change your life once you understand ADHD, and get a grip on it.
Stick with me for a while, and I’ll help you transform.
5. Start practicing stoicism today (nature’s oldest mental health booster)
Stoicism can help you stay calm, content, and resilient for a lifetime.
Having ADHD practically requires you to become stoic in your thoughts and actions.
If you aren’t stoic, then you risk thinking too much, worrying about endless things, and constantly quitting when times get tough.
Luckily, there’s a lot for you to read about stoic philosophy. Stoicism is 100% required reading.
Here are some key quotes that will give you a better idea of what stoicism is all about…
From Seneca:
Difficulties strengthen the mind, as labor does the body.
True happiness is to enjoy the present, without anxious dependence upon the future, not to amuse ourselves with either hopes or fears but to rest satisfied with what we have, which is sufficient, for he that is so wants nothing. The greatest blessings of mankind are within us and within our reach. A wise man is content with his lot, whatever it may be, without wishing for what he has not.
Begin at once to live, and count each separate day as a separate life.
Associate with people who are likely to improve you.
From Marcus Aurelius:
You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.
The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.
When you arise in the morning think of what a privilege it is to be alive, to think, to enjoy, to love …
It is not death that a man should fear, but he should fear never beginning to live.
From Epictetus:
Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants.
There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power or our will.
If you want to improve, be content to be thought foolish and stupid.
If it’s your first time learning about stoicism, prepare to be shocked by the hidden gems that you uncover. Check out this book for a daily dive into the world of stoicism, it’s what I have on my nightstand right now.
Stoicism is nature’s oldest mental health booster, as stoicism has been practiced for thousands of years.
Now, you can use stoicism for your own benefit, too.
6. Live in the city that best suits your personality
Where you live has a huge impact on your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Your location affects you on a subconscious level.
For example, if you choose to live in New York City, you’ll mostly be surrounded by people who have to work hard in order to “make it” in America. Living in a bustling city like NYC will probably encourage you to work extremely hard, advance in your career, earn more money, and develop more professional skills. If you want to grow on a professional level, then it might make sense for you to live in a big, booming metropolitan area like NYC.
However, if you’re in a position where you just want to relax, have fun, and enjoy the outdoors, then you might choose to live in an affordable beach city like St. Petersburg, Florida. Sure, you might not be as productive in St. Petersburg as you would be in New York City. But, there’s a good chance that you’ll enjoy life more, have more time to connect with people, and enjoy a much less stressful lifestyle.
Life is all about the choices that you make. And, deciding where to live is one of the most important choices that you will ever face.
Not sure where to live? Spend some time traveling to find the city that best suits your personality. Researching cities on the internet can provide you with some incredibly helpful hints. I like to look at Wikitravel for city insights, and numbeo for cost of living comparisons.
But, there will come a point where you just have to venture out into the world for yourself to find the city that “feels right” to you.
7. Eliminate unneeded friction from your life
I’m all for eliminating unnecessary pain in life.
Some pain is extremely good for you.
But, unnecessary pain (“friction”) is just counterintuitive to living a great life.
People with ADHD suffer from a lot of unnecessary pain, because many of us have accepted dogmatic advice that just doesn’t work for people with ADHD.
How many people have tried to make you feel guilty for taking ADHD medication, for example? Probably a lot of people.
ADHD Boss is a website that focuses on helping you get results for your life regardless of what it takes.
If you feel like ADHD medication improves your life, then take it (under the guidance of a doctor, of course).
If you feel like natural remedies are better suited for your lifestyle, then use them. Sometimes healthy food, exercise, and good relationships are enough for certain people with ADHD who live laid back lifestyles.
You have to do what works best for you, and forget about the people who want to push an agenda on you.
You have one life. Please get rid of unnecessary friction from your life, so that you can make the most of your limited time on this planet.
8. Make it a point to have at least one “mini-adventure” every month (always have fun)
It’s been shown that having “life experiences” is one of the healthiest and most rewarding things that people can do.
People who have many life experiences tend to have very few regrets on their deathbed. This should tell you something.
Your life experiences might involve:
- Taking a road trip with friends
- Visiting a new U.S. state that you haven’t been to before
- Attending interesting meetups (meetup.com is great for this)
- Pursuing new hobbies
Just make it a point to have at least one little adventure every month, no matter how busy or bogged down with work you are.
You have to enjoy your life, regardless of what it takes.
Stress is the ultimate contributor to disease in the modern age. And, stress amplifies your ADHD symptoms beyond all belief. So you have to do whatever it takes to fight stress, have fun, and enjoy at least one mini-adventure every single month.
You’ll be thankful in the future when you’re healthy, and you have plenty of fun memories to look back on.
Fun experiences are the absolute pinnacle of life.
9. Love people with a full heart (family, friends, strangers, yourself)
People with ADHD have to deal with many painful experiences in life.
And, most people who you come into contact with are dealing with pain in their lives, too.
You never know what someone is going through.
It’s best to just love everyone with a full heart. Family, friends, strangers, and especially yourself.
When was the last time you looked at yourself in the mirror and said “I love me”?
Many people with ADHD have really horrible self-talk. There’s a chance that you tell yourself all sorts of horrible things. I was the same way for a very long time.
But, when you love yourself, and love other people, life just gets so much better.
There’s more than enough pain in the world. You don’t need to contribute to that pain. Spread love, help other people, and you’ll be rewarded generously.
10. Take great care of your physical health (move every day)
Physical exercise improves mental health. There’s no doubt about it.
When you look good, you feel good. This is why you have to move every day.
It’s thought that hunter-gatherers used to burn between 800 to 1200 calories every single day through physical activity.
Today, the average American expends only a fraction of this amount of physical activity.
So, you don’t have to become a competitive athlete or CrossFit champion. But, you do have to move around every day if you want to enjoy a great quality of life.
I personally don’t think in terms of burning calories. I’m much more interested in immersing myself in nature, running outside, swimming in the ocean, and doing bodyweight exercises every day.
Some people prefer HIIT workouts, bodybuilding, yoga, and playing sports. That’s totally fine. You just have to do whatever it takes to get moving.
11. Always move in the direction of your “life vision” (and you’ll never have regrets in life)
Want to know one of the easiest ways to make a decision in life?
If you’re faced with a decision to make, just think about the choice that moves you closer to your life’s vision.
You do have a vision for your life, right?
If you don’t have a life vision, then you need to get started with creating a vision for your life right away.
It’s by far one of the most important things that you can do.
Because if you don’t know where you’re headed in life, then you’ll most likely become a victim of your ADHD, and you could end up going down some seriously destructive paths.
On the flip side, if you have a clear vision of what you want your life to look like, then you’ll almost always know the right choices to make for your life.
Having a life vision solves so many problems, and ultimately makes you a more confident, decisive, and interesting human being.
Final thoughts
Whether you just found out that you have ADHD, or you’ve been struggling with ADHD for many years, anyone can use this article to improve their life starting today.
This “bucket list” consists of the 11 things that will drastically improve your life on this planet. But, you have to be willing to take action. And, you have to actually apply these tips to your life.
I truly hope you use these bucket list items for everything they’re worth!
You CAN live the life you want with ADHD.
You CAN do almost anything that you want.
It’s just a matter of having a clear vision, taking action, and working with your ADHD brain rather than fighting against it.
Ester Duvall
My bucket list fits nicely in the galvanized bucket. I am seventy years old. My second grade Teacher tapped green construction paper cut to look like stands of grass on the window to help me stop daydreaming. One of many impulsive acts was when I sat on the State capital rotunda dangling my legs over the edge. The time my husband said “No!” to me was when I asked if I could buy a Honda Rebel motorcycle to ride to work. Your direction given to ADHD people is refreshingly freeing. Thank you. Love you.
ADHD BOSS
You are awesome Ester. I had to look up an image of the Capital Rotunda to see what you were talking about, and I literally laughed out loud. You’re a perfect example of why people with ADHD are so much fun. Thanks so much for reading the article. I love you too!
Sarah
Thank you for this I’m 36 yrs old I still live with my mother and I’m the mother of 9yr old twin girls. I’m unemployed. I’ve been fighting ADHD all my life and you made me realize that’s what I’m doing wrong. I need to stop fighting it and embrace it. I been fighting addiction as well so I’ve been abusing and punching myself for long time. I feel extremely tired most of the time but I will not give up. I want my daughters to see who I really am and I want to see also cause I’ve never seen the genuine me. I lost her many many years ago. I’ve been in counseling all my life and it helps but it feels like no matter how much I plan or write in a journal or positive self talk I’m still stuck with no motivation whatsoever. I’m isolating myself not purposely I dont have a car and know friends because of my addiction and trust issues. I’m sorry for the life story huh it just that I’m kind of desperate for information about Adhd. So thank you for this blog every time I learn something new about it. I feel like I’m not so crazy or lazy that there’s a reason why I feel the way I feel. So thank you and God bless.
Pauly
Stop beating yourself up for the small fails in life and embrace the good and power on . Life is short and it’s meant to be lived !🌻❤️🌻
Ag
Knowledge is power. ADHD is a gift . Find what you are good and passionate about at and you will embrace it. Wish you the best.
ADHD Boss
Agreed you as well AG!
Grace
Thanks for this! Just diagnosed at 36. Going to try these!
ADHD BOSS
Thank you Grace 🙂
Toby
My names toby diagnosed at 56 lifes been a nightmare until i got diagnosed and some rightmeds and i red up about adhd and then i stopt beating my self up and realized i am normal for a porson with adhd and why i do the things i do and say and im happy now at last
Stefan Taylor
So great to hear that Toby. Congrats!
Shane Johnston
I was diagnosed with ADD at 46 in November of 2017. Unfortunately I had always been successful in my career but I had all but destroyed my marriage. I am still learning about my gifts and I now recognize my challenges as what they are. My marriage is on the mend but it’s going to take some time. Thank you for putting this list together and sharing it. I am definitely starting to use this today!
Stefan Taylor
Thank you very much for your comment Shane.
I’m happy to hear that you’re discovering your gifts, and improving the quality of your marriage.
We’re all fighting our own battles, and it sounds like you’re on the right path.
Keep up the awesome progress Shane, and thanks again for commenting.
Caroline
Diagnosed last year at 51. Been struggling with college for many years and couldn’t get any direction from anyone intilI met an advisor who sent me for a learning disabilities assessment. Not only diagnosed with 2 learning disabilities but found out I have adhd.
Medication has helped tremendously but still all
over the place and constantly have management at my job breathing down my back for time management. What a relearning battle!
Thanks for the article am gonna try and put suggestions to use!
Stefan Taylor
Hi Caroline. Thanks for sharing your story with us. That’s awesome to hear that an advisor was able to help you out so much. Definitely give these suggestions a try, and make sure to let us know how they work for you. I look forward to hearing back from you.
Thomas tantius
Thank you for the article. Could you provide some information on supplements I can try. I’m 51, known I’ve had ADHD for years. I’m impulsive and am on an anti anxiety medication. Because I’m in the USAF for last 18 years, it has been proven the DOD still doesn’t accept widely used drugs so I’m seeking natural supplements. I know zinc, mag, help but could be more specific on some suggestions. Thank you
Stefan Taylor
Hi Thomas. Since you’re on medication, I would recommend chatting with your doctor about specific supplements to try. I wish I could be of further help.
Lesley
Thank you so much for this. I particularly like the section on stoicism. It sounds very much like God’s love. Each one of us is fearfully and wonderfully made. I can’t wait to employ this list. It’s very exciting.
Stefan Taylor
You’re awesome Lesley 🙂
Stephanie
I agree, Lesley. That’s a verse I repeat to myself over and over. So often feel like a walking disaster… I have to remember that God created each of us exactly as He intended, for purposes beyond our understanding.
mary
63 and love this advice. My biggest shock was….several years ago I tried meds. Remember standing in the shower crying. Was thinking of all missed opportunities thru my life. Always thought I was lazy. Came into the living room, looked at my husband and said, “This is how the other half lives?” Have made lists for years, wonderful life and great family and friends. That quirky and zany personality is me. But still that little voice…..Thank you so much
Stefan Taylor
Wow this is an amazing comment Mary. Thank you so much for sharing. I know exactly how you feel because I felt the same way as soon as I tried Vyvanse. It’s a shocker for sure. I wish you and your family the absolute best!
Marianne
This is one of the most impactful, positive, useful and motivating pieces on living with ADHD that I’ve read. Thank you – as someone recently diagnosed after a lifetime of struggling without understanding why, I will put this at the top of my commonplace pile.
Stefan Taylor
You’re awesome Marianna. I really, truly appreciate you.
Rita
Thnx fr sharing. ..my child hving ADHD. ….he s 10 yrs old. ..bfr 6 months i got to knw dat he s hving ADHD. ..ur bucket list wl useful fr him …
Stefan Taylor
Thanks Rita 🙂
Beaugy
Where do I start to find out if I have ADHD? I have been reading up on ADHD for awhile now. I can totally relate to quite a few of the behaviors and symptoms. I was diagnosed with depression years ago and have been taking Prozac for about 7 years ago when I got pregnant with my son. And have stuck with it. From different doctors. But i I think my diagnosis may have changed, because what I can relate to in ADHD. Confused on where to go from here.
Stefan Taylor
Hi Beaugy. Try chatting with a doctor about your ADHD symptoms and see what she has to tell you. A doctor can administer a basic ADHD test for you. It’s very easy for the most part.
Kathleen Torgersen
Your article helps give me confidence in accomplishing moving forward with these steps to work on, and understanding the dopamine points! Thank you so much Stefan.
Stefan Taylor
Thank YOU Kathleen. I love hearing from readers like yourself.
Marion
Thank you for these ideas and philosophies. My 9 year old son is exactly the person you describe. He is either getting 100’s or he is failing. He rebels often and can’t see the merits of any long term gratification. He also makes the most insightful and profound observations about the world, people and all things scientific or cosmic. He’s my worst nightmare and my greatest inspiration. Nothing in the middle. I will keep your suggestions saved for him to read at a later date. Thank you again!
Stefan Taylor
Thank you Marion. Really glad to hear this article left a positive impact on you. I hope it helps you and your family thrive.
Sheree N
This was by far the best article regarding ADD that I have ever read. I have had ADD my entire life and have been diagnosed with it for the last 11 years, (I’m. 37). I am on mom, wife, Realtor, and a business owner . I take medication for my ADD, but recently, it’s not been enough. Reading your article opened my eyes and showed me that I’m not defective, lazy, or stupid. I love the statement about people with ADD being used to pain from people Giving you advice that does not work for you and then getting upset when you don’t follow it. I’m going to print this out as well as read the suggested material. Thank you so much!
Stefan Taylor
Really amazing comment Sheree, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with me about the article and website. I really appreciate hearing from readers like you.
James' mom
You are what I am seeking. As a mother of an 8 yo boy diagnosed at 6 w severe ADHD I am seeking a positive approach/mindset bc what we’ve been doing is not working/beneficial. I will do whatever it takes to help my son be the best him that he can be. I adore your outlook and look forward to reading more here and get a plan in place. Thank you for being you
Stefan Taylor
Thank you so much James’ mom. Really appreciate hearing from you 🙂 I wish you and your son the very best going forward. It sounds like you have an amazing outlook on life too.
Chris B
I’m 30. I feel like I’ve started my life so late with this realization. When I was 8, my parents were advised to put me on ADHD medication because of how messy, late, and unruly I was. They disregarded this information and put me in a different school.
And here I am, 22 years later now realizing why I was so different than everyone else. And it left me with a huge disadvantage and some interesting things that set me apart from everyone else. I’m embracing my divergent thought and my sense of creativity. But I need to learn how to bring order to all this chaos. Thanks so much for your practical and natural advice. I’m going to start on making my commonplace and taking natural supplements to help me focus on what I want in my life.
Stefan Taylor
Chris you’re in the prime of your life as a 30 year old man. Definitely not too late to start this new journey in your life. You’re in an amazing position.
Bernadette
My 14 year old son was diagnosed with ADHD at 11 yrs of age. He took medication for a short time but didn’t like the side effects. He does not like the label ADHD and denies having it which makes it very hard to help him…he’s a teenager and does not want to be thought of as odd or different. The advice and suggestions in your article were very helpful to me as a Mother of a very bright and talented son but who often gets bogged down by life and its demands. Thank you. I could use more insight on how to help him and would love to read more.
Stefan Taylor
Thank you for your comment Bernadette I wish you and your son the very best!
Samantha
Wow! Stefan, great insight! I literally laughed out loud and am almost giddy about the common place when I saw that you use One Note! What a great solution. I used it for work. But that would solve so many problems for me at home. Instead of having folders, slips of paper, sticky notes.
I am tapping into my gift, which is projects – start to finish..(and recruiting people to help when possible). Revitalization efforts, helping non-profits, etc its all volunteer work and brings about some frustration in my family. I love ideas and moving ideas forward thru research and effort. And I LOVE helping people.
I learned I had ADHD 2 years ago when my husband listened to Dr. Amen and said he thought of me. He was right! Wow…
I dont take meds, yet. When I remember to take fish oil that helps and I am gluten-free now.
Cant wait to check out ADHD Boss! Thank you, thank you!! Keep up the great work!!
Stefan Taylor
Very happy to hear you’re tapping into your gift Samantha. Really appreciate hearing your thoughts. I wish you the very best.
Maarek
Thank you . This is the most concise , useful, and inspiring advice I’ve ever seen for ADD/H people . (‘Concise’ is very important !). I have a pretty successful life and I’m doing well, but it’s been really hard (the ADHD stuff). I use some of the things that you’ve mentioned regularly, and I printed out your entire list and stuck copies to the fridge, the cabinet over the coffee pot (the first thing I see in the morning), the computer, and the front door (inside). It’s that good. : ) Most of the stuff I’ve read on how to improve your life if you have ADD is fairly depressing. Yours is not. Thanks !
ADHD Boss
Thank you for the incredible feedback Maarek, I’m truly happy to hear you printed this content and kept it. That’s awesome. Thanks again!
Kristena Stegenga
I absolutely love every single thing about this article . I’ve read so many that just give the same advice on coping with ADHD but nothing has come close to the very useful information here . Thank you for writing it perfectly for easy understanding . ( P.S I read the entire thing word for word and I’m usually a huge skim reader so points for you for keeping my complete attention the whole time 😊).
ADHD Boss
Thank you so much Kristena.
Anonymous
I have undiagnosed ADD, but i can tell from reading about the symptoms that i do have it. All my adult life i have been hiding from people so that my short comings r not exposed. But lately i have been forced to socialise n people just dont understand that ur forgetfulness n sloppiness is not on purpose. They r so unforgiving. 😫
Patricia
Stefan, wonderful insights about why I do and have done some things. I was nearly giddy when I read the first item! I started using OneNote several years back and it has been a life saver. I keep everything from info on my prescriptions and passwords to the recipe that I use to make food for my cats! The greatest thing about it is that you can access the information that you need from any device that is handy as long as you have internet access. I still don’t think my boss understands that I can take notes at a meeting using my laptop and access the same info on my desktop, tablet, or phone.
I was diagnosed by accident at 42 when I was sent to a psychiatrist for medication to treat major depression. He asked me if he could give me a test and as he asked the questions I knew that he knew my answers. It was the most amazing thing. I still remember the last thing he said to me as I walked out of his office, “Remember, all of the things that you have gone through in your life are not your fault, it’s the way you are wired.” He gave me my epiphany! I felt like the weight of the world had been lifted off of my shoulders. Remembering that moment still brings tears to my eyes.
Thank you for your insights!
ADHD Boss
Wonderful comment Patricia, thank you for sharing your insight with us here!
Judith
I married a man that did not try to change me. We he might have during the first10 years of a 49 year marriage . I am very quirky—disorganized —and fun. I know there are people who don’t get me and or don’t see my qualities as good. But my husband was my rock and my biggest cheerleader. I am 70. He passed away a 2 months ago. I agree an ADHD person needs to cultivate a few really good people in their life. I relied on my husband’s strong acceptance. I know God has made each of us an as they say “God Don’t make junk”. One bit of advise I wold like others to know is it’s important to make meaningful friendships. Take the time. Thank you for your article Judy. By the way I was a lower elementary teacher for 31 years👍
Joanne
Thank you so very much. I am 63 and have finally at the right medication level. I never felt so very different in a positive way. Your 11 statements are going to be read everyday. Thank you again. You are an angel 🌺
Patricia Cali
Such useful information for my daughter. She’s14, ASD, ADHD, OCD. Appreciate your insight so much. Thank you.
DP
I have nothing against stoicism, but I happened to discover that Al-Anon – the 12 step group for family and friends of alcoholics- works wonders for all of the same things; worry, catastrophizing, living in the past, projecting into the future, critical self-talk/self-view, low self esteem, “should-haves” and more. I guess they both fill a common gap in people with ADHD.
ADHD Boss
I’ve heard the same thing about Al-Anon – there is a lot of crossover. Thank you for your comment DP!
Shay
I love the idea of the commonplace. Thank you so much for sharing.